The Wilo Library

Trauma informed education, EMDR, Gottman Method, ACT, CBT, and Person Centered.
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Learn the "Why" Behind the Work

If you're curious about the theories, research, and evidence behind the approaches I use, you're invited to explore them here.

Below you'll find official resources for each therapeutic approach used at Wilo Therapy, along with thoughtfully curated books organized by topic.

Happy exploring!

“EMDR therapy targets the unprocessed memories that contain the negative emotions, sensations and beliefs. By activating the brain’s information processing system, the old memories can then be “digested.” Meaning what is useful is learned, what’s useless is discarded, and the memory is now stored in a way that is no longer damaging.”
― Francine Shapiro

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EMDR

“You can spend a lifetime being curious about the inner world of your partner, and being brave enough to share your own inner world, and never be done discovering all there is to know about each other. It’s exciting.”
― John M. Gottman

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Gottman Method

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ACT

“The problem with problem solving is that it is a mode of mind that does not know when to stop.”
― Steven C. Hayes

Recommended Reads

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This section is a work in progress. I will add books and resources here as I become familiar with them and time allows.

  • Adults Newly Diagnosed with ADHD:

    • The ADHD Field Guide for Adults — Cate Osborn and Erik Gude
      Best for: This is the first book I recommend to my newly or late-diagnosed adults clients seeking an accessible, bite-sized, and shame-free manual. It uniquely caters to neurodivergent reading styles while covering overlooked topics like sex, intimacy, and hormones.

    • Scattered Minds: The origins and healing of attention deficit disorder clinical reviews —Dr. Gabor Maté
      Best for: The second book I recommend to my clients with a history of trauma and is looking for advice for managing ADHD by shifting the focus from shame to self-acceptance. Maté’s theory is a bit controversial, however. By focusing on the trauma in early childhood and environmental stress as the origins, rather than an inherited condition, he goes against the mainstream psychiatric understanding. He emphasizes emotional regulation, strengthening caregiver-child bonds, mindfulness, and creating supportive, low-stress environments.

    • Driven to Distraction — Edward Hallowell, MD & John Ratey, MD (Revised Edition)
      Best for: Newly diagnosed adults, parents of children with ADHD, and family members looking for a compassionate explanation through narrative-based experiences.

    • Taking Charge of Adult ADHD — Russell Barkley, PhD
      Best for: Those looking for a more clinical or science based guide for understanding and functioning as an adult with ADHD. It strongly focuses on improving executive functioning and practical behavioral tools.

    • ADHD 2.0 — Edward Hallowell, MD & John Ratey, MD
      Best for: Those looking for an updated version to Driven to Distraction or newly diagnosed. Its offers a positive, skills based focus with an more accessible writing style.

    Adults Living and Working with ADHD

    The ADHD Effect on Marriage — Melissa Orlov
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    Your Brain at Work (2nd Edition) — David Rock
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    Women and Girls with ADHD

    A Radical Guide for Women With ADHD — Sari Solden & Michelle Frank, PsyD
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    Women with Attention Deficit Disorder — Sari Solden
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    • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work — Dr. John Gottman & Nan Silver
      Best for: This is the first book I refer my couples clients to when struggling with conflict, disconnection, and have lost fondness for one another. Gottman relies on clinical data from decades of research to provide advise and actionable steps to improve your relationship. Please note, however, that some exercises require high effort and intentionality from both partners for it to be effective.

    • The Hold Me Tight Workbook: A practical, interactive companion guide with exercises and prompts for partners — Dr. Sue Johnson
      Best for: Partners seeking an emotional deep dive into attachment cycles. This workbook provides structured prompts to help partners slow down, recognize fears and provide a vulnerable space for needs to be heard.